Define Kind

January 27th, 2012

You say he is kind, but it is not kindness to shut down emotionally and force you into the position of figuring out what he needs from you. There is no amount of sad or ill that excuses routinely treating someone badly when you can possibly prevent it.

Once again Captain Awkward knocks it out of the park. Sometimes people have an aura of haplessness/hopelessness about them that makes you think they’re harmless to you. Like, they couldn’t even get it together enough to hurt you if they concentrated on it. They seem “nice.” But seeming nice (not actively being a raging assface) and being nice (taking care of yourself and not harming those around you, even on accident) are two very different beasts.

You can take home a wounded puppy, and it will be cute and break your heart with its antics, but you have to spend a significant amount of time cleaning pee out of your rugs. And men who are wounded puppies will never grow out of pissing on your floor, not as long as they know you will be there to mop it up.