Please admire my mental jewelry

March 4th, 2009

Love this piece on why smart people fail at dating and love.

excerpted from Huffington Posts’ Dr. Alex Benzer: Why The Smartest People Have The Toughest Time Dating. (bolding mine)

2. Smart people feel that they’re entitled to love because of their achievements.

For most of their lives, smart people inhabit a seemingly meritocratic universe: if they work hard, they get good results or, in the case of really smart folks, even if they don’t work hard, they still get good results. Good results mean kudos, strokes, positive reinforcement, respect from peers, love from parents.

So it only makes sense that in the romantic arena, it should work the same way. Right? The more stuff I do, the more accomplishments and awards I have, the more girls or boys will like me. Right? Please say I’m right, because I’ve spent a LOT of time and energy accumulating this mental jewelry, and I’m going to be really bummed if you tell me it’s not going to get me laid.

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4 Responses to “Please admire my mental jewelry”

JeniPANTS on March 4, 2009 4:53 pm
I admire your mental jewelry! Also, your ass.

In all seriousness, You’re way more socially apt than I am, and I’m amazed that I have any friends outside this wonderful tube of interwebz. I am, however, not surprised that I found someone like me, and he happens to be male, and he loves me and give me bunnies n’ stuff. What can I say? I give good head. Which I learned from you.
Heidi on March 5, 2009 4:31 am
I was going to add that smart people can tell that most other people are horrible. But that somehow doesn’t have the substance of Jeni’s post.
Dim Reaper on March 5, 2009 4:49 pm
I’d disagree with this from a completely different angle – there are lots of stupid people who aren’t in relationships and think they’re entitled to them – so what’s their excuse?

Of course I’m biased here because of my firm belief that 99% of the population of this planet are f***wits, morons or mentalists.

Hmm. Just calculated that – it would mean that there are 60 million intelligent people on the planet. My experience is that there are probably not that many intelligent people – and I don’t mean people with a PhD, just people with enough intelligence to not be a f***wit, moron or mentalist.
Heidi on March 5, 2009 9:36 pm
See, now this is why we all huddle together here. It’s like in 300, but ours is a multi-person moron shield.