Comments on: The Ways I am Supposed to Feel

By: Zansetsue

Zansetsue — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 05:32:13 +0000

That is just horrifying. Really.

By: SuperBadGirl

SuperBadGirl — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 16:44:07 +0000

Same thing for me. There are very few people I touch on a regular basis. I don’t hug a lot, not because I don’t like hugging but because I am loathe to intrude on people’s body bubbles. So I don’t generally hug on greeting unless I haven’t seen the person for a long time, or they’re just huge huggers and I can’t get around it. When I have had a few drinks I tend to hang on/rub on/hug on Todd. That’s because he lets me, and because I know he doesn’t take it as anything other than what it is. There are a *very* few other people I might hug on, but for the most part even my more drunken touching is constrained to patting people on the arm, touching their back as I move past them, etc.

Totally going up to someone I don’t know and feeling them all over is not even in the realm of my possibility.

And for the record, guys: When a girl you know is desperately clinging to/tugging on your hand and there’s a strange guy pawing all over her, she wants your help. Girls are born knowing this, apparently guys have to be taught.

By: Dim Reaper

Dim Reaper — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 15:26:05 +0000

Hmmm. Although as your friend I’m obviously biased in this matter I actually think that you’re completely in the right.

Thinking about it now, amongst my female friends (probably more of those than male friends) there are probably only three that I might put my arm around them for a few seconds, or touch them on the shoulder – and incidentally they are amongst the very few people that would do that to me.

For anyone else, I’d feel I was intruding into their personal space and certainly I won’t have other people intruding into my personal space.

The problem is that some men don’t see anything wrong in it, and so won’t leap in to the rescue when it does happen.

As for the barman at the end – he could have just told you, “I threw the guy out the things he was saying were getting a little out of hand.” No mention of you, or whatever the guy was saying – simple. I agree with your thoughts though – the barman probably thought it would seem chivalrous to tell you that.

Overall Susan, nothing wrong with you – it’s the whole fu****g world that is full of mentalists, fu**wits and retards.