That makes sense, what you wrote. A lot of sense, actually. Given the choice to feel bad about themselves or feel good about themselves, I guess most guys would pick the version where we’re nuts and they’re logical.

I must ponder this.

The whole thing about men telling you “you’re thinking about it the wrong way”, presuming to inform you how you feel- it’s because it makes it easier for us. We have a good thing going, and when something like this is highlighted, two possible realities present themselves. The first is that you, the female, are being hysterical, overreacting, lack a sense of humor, etc. This is a wonderful thing for us men- not only are we not guilty of anything, but we are suddenly -noble-, we are mature, we are helpful by patiently explaining to the error of your thoughs. Aren’t you grateful? We barely lift a finger, and we’re beyond innocent, we’re actually heroes.

The alternative, where we acknowledge that we are responsible for a world where 50% of its inhabitants must live with the knowledge that they live, die, and screw at the whim of the other 50%- well, not only does that suddenly cast us as participants in a large-scale travesty, but it means that in order to be the good guys we’ll have to actually do some, you know, -work-.

So given the choice between two worldviews, most of us take the lazy, self-deluding road, and over time, it gets to be habit. Say something loud and often enough to ourselves, and it becomes truth.

I’ve been guilty of the former. I realize the latter now, and try not to be Part Of The Problem. It’s not much, but it’s something.

Do you keep climbing out, and anticipate that kicks just come with the territory? Or do you fall back down to where it’s cold and dark, but no one’s kicking you? (or at least you don’t feel it when they do.)

I wish I knew what to do about it.