Things I’ve Decided
I’ve decided that I need some kind of perfect mixture of daily activities if I am to go to bed satisfied. (Well, not THAT kind of satisfied, but you know what I mean.)
My days have to have a little bit of creativity so I don’t feel guilty about not being creative, a little bit of socialization so I don’t feel guilty about not socializing, and little bit of household be-bettermenting so I don’t feel like a crazy white-trash slob.
If I do those things—ALL of those things—in a day, then I feel like the day wasn’t wasted. If I skip one of them, I feel that I’ve somehow done it wrong.
Actually, thinking about it now I suppose that a really complete day would include some superBadGirl personal improvement in the form of exercise or something, but certainly that’s not one of my YOUR DAY WAS MADE OF FAIL trigger-points like those other three.
Today I wrote some, went to a blessedly-knitter-free coffee shop with friends and wrote some more then came back home and made a serious dent in yard weedage. That feels like I did it right. Maybe if I find the formula to satisfaction and happiness and I faithfully follow it each day I might be… happy?
Oh lawd. I don’t know if I want to go there. But anyway. Maybe the secret to my happiness is based in math. Wouldn’t that be all ironical ‘n shit?
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When I’m on holiday I also have a routine for making my day not seem pointless (not worth bothering when I’m at work - I know that is pointless) my routine is to give myself just one task to do, then if I achieve it I feel good, if I achieve more than one task then I’m a task-achieving dynamo and I generally manage to avoid the disappointment of failing at a long list of things to get done.
Examples: Assemble the drawers on my computer desk, telephone the bank, buy some milk, sort my DVD collection - tasks can be big or small, just so long as there is only one “official” one for the day.
And making days mean something (love your observation about the fruitlessness of this during the work week/year, Dim) has become a focus for me, I am going to keep working on it. If you stay tuned you will undoubtedly read here how it goes horribly wrong! :-p
In thinking on this further, I do also have an unwritten formula of things to be done every day in order to not feel guilty, but the problem is that it’s got three times as much stuff on it as I have mental resources for. Or that any human would have resources for. Oh sure, I can manually cross a few things off the list, but my guilt-meter remembers they should be there and I still end up feeling like a failure at the end of the day when they’re not all done.
Okay. Well, I’m off to try -again- to make myself a reasonable formula to not feel like crap at the end of the day, and I think it should probably be just like yours only with “do something cool with the kid” in it too. And then find a way to write again. And then we can share how we failed and then tried again and then failed and tried again. :)
Taking a walk with Todd = social + exercise
Meeting a friend for communal writing at the coffee shop = social + creative
Having someone over to help me clean my bathroom grout = social + house be-betterment. However no one seems to want to take me up on that last one.