If you’ve been keeping up, you will know that this is a year in which I’ve determined to simplify. One of the ways I’m attempting to do that is by not purchasing as much clothing – and what better way to give up a thing than cold-turkey, right? So I haven’t bought any clothing since December—and you know, I really don’t miss it a bit.
(Wardrobe staple items are excluded, so I did buy three new pairs of plain black leggings and one plain black long sleeved tee to replace one that had worn out.)
What I’ve found in the last 4.5 months is that I wear a uniform. It’s black leggings, a black dress, some kind of scarf or necklace, and maybe a jacket.
This dress is one of my favorites, I like it so much I have two of them identical. I wear one at least once a week to work. Very flattering over the boobs of doom. Neckline not too low.
I also have two black spaghetti-strapped swing dresses, and I wear them regularly with either a jacket over them or a shirt under them.
These are the things I choose when I go out, when I go to work, when I run errands, they’re just the things I feel comfortable in and don’t have to think about.
Of course, I have a huge closet full of other things, not as perfect as these things, and I have been pulling more stuff out and mix and matching in the last month as spring rolls in. Stripey tshirts with jumper-dresses over them, or stripey t-shirts with high-waisted skirts, or (as today) hot pink maxi skirts and black tees. A lot of black and white with a splash of color.
I’ve also been throwing out lots of things, or putting them in donate/resell piles. Things that don’t fit? Gone. Things I actually don’t like to wear? Gone. Worn out things I’ve had since my 20s? Gone. I threw out a sweatshirt yesterday that I wore when I was in college. It was an old Gap one and it said “Final Victory 29″ on it. I remember my boyfriend at the time used to make fun of it because it was super oversized, and he used to call me “Final Victory” whenever I was exercising. I’ve kept it more than 20 years because some guy I haven’t spoken to in almost that long thought I was cute in it. Literally what am I doing? I am cute all the time irrespective of the comments of others.
I’ve also been examining some of my attitudes towards dressing. I buy things and I think I never wear them because I never go anywhere nice, but then I go somewhere nice and I still want to wear my old basics and not be fancy. I don’t think I am in the mood for being looked at, or drawing attention to myself. I want to look put together, but I definitely don’t want it to look like I am trying. Because I am for sure not trying. I guess that’s why all the makeup’s been neutral lately too. I just don’t want to feel very visible. How much I don’t care needs to show. One day I might care again, I hope I do, in a healthy way, but right now I don’t care. I just want to wear something respectable enough that people treat me well, and otherwise be low-key.
Of course my idea of low-key dressing is probably not the same as other people’s idea.
Anyway, I am hoping to come out of this year with a severely streamlined closet, and a clearer idea of the types of things it’s worth it for me to purchase in the first place. My year-long clothing-buying hiatus has not been a challenge in the least.